Do Hard Things : Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness

by Steve Magness

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In Do Hard Things by Steve Magness, toughness isn’t about grinding through pain or silencing weakness. Instead, real resilience grows from self-awareness, emotional regulation, and purpose. Magness challenges the “no pain, no gain” mindset, revealing that sustainable strength comes from flexibility, connection, and understanding our limits. Doing hard things means listening inward, adapting wisely, and pursuing growth with courage rather than blind endurance.

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